Wednesday, 14 February 2007
I'm not going to stoop to cliché and bash Valentine's Day for being tacky and commercial, because everyone hates that. It's done, it's been said.
Instead, I'm going to draw your attention to something more insidious.
Have you ever noticed how inescapably female the whole aesthetic of Valentine's Day is? As though Love & Romance™ was solely the province of women. I'm not going to suggest that women exert any less effort than men selecting their V.D. (coincidence?) gifts than men. That would be churlish. But I've certainly never seen a Valentine's Day campaign marketing, say, a nice, thoughtful bottle of Scotch and a subscription to Chainsaw Weekly. It's all rings, perfume, rom-coms, poetry, jewellery, sweets, chocolates, lingerie, plush toys, cards and flowers. Do men not deserve Valentine's logistics? Is it something that is assumed to happen by default?
You have to wonder what this implies. We're all familiar with the "amusing" sexist stereotype of men being insensitive dunderheads requiring instruction as to what gifts to select. And women being faultlessly intuitive and nurturing, suffering their idiot suitor's wretched attempts with kind patience.
Are we really still slaves to the tired spectacle of men having to present pleasing offerings to win the affections of their desired receptacle?
Haven't we moved on at all?
I don't claim to understand women (and I don't like what I do understand...), but if some guy thought that the sum total of my romantic worth was any of those hackneyed pieces of shit, I'd probably think he was sexist. Like presenting a man with a guide to belching and arse-scratching, because that's what men like, right? Teehee!
Yes, I know I'm not getting laid today.
Oh, and as an afterthought, even if you agree with your inamorata that the holiday is a joke, you're fucked (or not fucked, as the case may be...) if you don't do at least something. It's like agreeing to shirk Christmas. It will never happen because you're going to be a complete heel if you do.
Posted by Ladyfingers at 20:46